Posted: January 26, 2009 in Church Leadership, Random

Please and thank you.

Two of the most sought after phrases on the planet.  We want people to ask for things nicely and when they receive it from us we expect them to extremely grateful.  There have even been episodes of Seinfeld about how you should thank people the next day, even if you already thanked them in person…great stuff!

A lot is made of being grateful…unfortunately it’s intricately related to the fact that we are selfish.  When you do something nice for people you expect that they are going to appreciate it.  You want people to say, “Awesome!” “Thanks for getting me tickets!” “I appreciate you thinking of me!” “Your gift really meant a lot to me.”

Too often though the person you open the door for just waltzes on in like you are there to serve them (I’ve actually said, “Your welcome,” to someone when they didn’t even acknowledge the fact that I waited on them).

My point is that there are two things that need to happen.

1. Those of us that go out of our way to appreciate people need to get over the fact that people just don’t respond the way that you want them to.  It doesn’t mean that your Birthday gift, special date, or handwritten note wasn’t well-received, it’s just that they might not have seen the Seinfeld episode or read about Jesus healing the guys with leprosy?!

2. If we are giving and appreciating in order to receive then we are giving for the wrong reasons.  It’s really that simple.  If Jesus took away salvation away from us every time we lived in a way that showed we didn’t value our relationship with God, we would be in big trouble and probably headed for the place where the sun don’t shine if you catch my drift.

  1. Mark says:

    That reminds me of our Journey Group lesson this week when we talked about people with “Approval Addiction” that totally do things for the wrong reasons.

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